A new Life, a new Relation, A new Family, A new Responsibility and a new Commitment. Time to step into a life-changing phase.
Dearest Daddy’s Princess,
Finally, your most dreamt day is here, the glitters, the gold, the red lehenga, the smiles, the rosy cheeks, the tears and all the happiness around. Now that all your fairytale dreams are going to be true, your groom in real is going to ride on a white horse for you and while you are all excited to be his bride, let’s have a reality check.
Marriage is bliss, but everything that comes with a bliss has an awful truth hidden beneath it. Firstly, let’s raise a toast to all the lovely moments that you are going to have henceforth, the feeling of being accompanied by someone for the rest of your forever, the feeling of waking up beside that pretty face, the feeling of exploring places round the globe holding hand in hand, the feeling of sharing bedroom space with someone, the feeling of watching all the web series and being able to relate your story with it. All these feelings would be one side of the coin, the other side would be the fights, the misunderstandings, the debates, the ignorance, the tears, the adjustments and even these things with time would evolve in your relationship.
Amongst all the feelings, the most important one for your self is to soon realize, to not let your marriage and everyone else around take away your self-esteem and self-choices. While you keep on pleasing everyone around, remember to please and praise yourself first. Your husband, his family and his relatives are important but do remember there’s a house behind, the one that you left, and that house and the people living there still every single day try to feel you in that space. No matter how many years pass by, that house would still admire the footprints that you left behind.
Dear Women, oh yes, I am addressing you now as a woman, because now you are no longer your mommy and daddy’s baby girl, but you are someone’s wife and someone’s daughter in law. Your marriage at many stages of life would ask to leave behind your choices and to adapt to someone’s else choices, yes it’s okay to adapt it till the time your heart is willing to do so, but do not ever try to burden yourself with their choices. Burdening yourself would never let you rise high. While you endlessly love his family make sure to let him know how much you love yourself and how much do you admire to become something on your own too. Stand up for your own choices and values, let everyone around you know that all you demand is support and love for your choices.
Marriage is like Chips: salty, spicy, crispy and soft.
The path is never going to be easy but it’s going to be a joy ride. While you evolve in this journey always wake up to thought to love yourself immensely and to stand by your own side. The more you stand on your feelings and the more you handle your choices and the new beautiful family, the more will you be accepted.